If you are over 4o CONGRATULATIONS. For those of us who have made it this far especially to middle age, we understand, if life has taught us well, the complexities of life are not so complex after all and the door to clarity opens our eyes wide to the new reality that has been before us, to our surprise, all along. It is ironic that we spend many years traveling, seeking, hoping, praying, trying and doing many things just to come full circle right back to where we started. The difference is now we KNOW. The journey to find ourselves ends where it starts. Had we listened more and not spent so much time making the same mistakes repeatedly we may have reached this pinnacle earlier but on the other end of that stick, had we NOT experienced many things we may have spent the rest of our lives wondering. Here are a few things that should be very clear to us at this juncture of our lives, if they are not and we are middle aged, we may have a not more to learn. Click NEXT to see the next segment above or below.
Everybody is Insecure
So much time is wasted trying to “fit in” and mid-life teaches us that EVERYBODY is insecure and strength (and WEAKNESS) really does come in numbers. Most people can’t be trusted to be who they SAY they are so a wise man never listens to what people say… he watches what they DO. You realize people do some pretty desperate things to fit in with the crowd and when they are alone they would not do the same thing. People like to follow the leader but the leader is not always a good person he or she is just an independent thinker which is often rare to find when we are younger which is why they are so revered. Once you hit Mid-Life, if you are lucky, you become an independent thinker.
Adages Come to Life
How many times have you heard as a kid from an older person “If I could be 20 again and know what I know now, I’d be dangerous” and probably very lonely too. The 20s is a time that many people think is the best decade in life and while you may LOOK your best the lessons are actually the hardest. It’s where you struggle the most, make the worst decisions, try stupid drugs or overindulged in alcohol, fall in love, get your heart broken and run into the wall many, many times and it’s the time that you want to prove your independence from your parents. I once heard a man say, “The older I get the smarter my mother gets” of course this was a black man since there was no father around. OK that was a dig but it is what it is and sometimes it is what it isn’t the lesson here is the older you get the more you understand the things your mother or some older person tried to drill into you.
Foresight was 20/20
Sometimes the decisions you make when you are younger are great ones you and you may not even realize it until 20 to 30 years later. For me, one of the BEST decisions I ever made was to diversify my skill set in the industry. I can do at least 10 different jobs, it’s like being a triple major in college. If you think back. I’m sure there is a sign of relieve that you can breath for a decision that you made early on.
Parents become the Children
Parents take care of children when they are small, there is 20 to 30 year break where the child becomes an adult and gets live his adult life then it’s time to take care of the parent(s). It’s the cycle of life. Now they listen to your advice, they depend on you to take care of them and they appreciate your love and loyalty in their time of need.
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